13 Things Mature Zambian Men Don’t Do.
It seems that we as a Zambian society have forgotten some important values, and are generally becoming more immature as a result. There doesn’t seem to be a differentiation between manliness and egocentric chauvinist behavior in a lot of people’s minds, which is truly sad.
You have many Zambians saying things like 30 is the new 20, and grown men acting like entitled spoiled children. The truth is that once you’ve stepped into your mid-20s you should have gained enough life experience to be able to behave like a mature Zambian adult.
The thing is, few Zambian young people – and too few older Zambian people as well, I’m sad to say – don’t really know what it means to be a mature man. A truly mature man is a strong and confident individual, a diligent provider, passionate and caring lover, brave protector, problem solver, careful listener, a safe port in a storm and a friend you can depend on.
Being a confident individual who knows a thing or two about life, understands that others depend on him and has his priorities straight, a mature man will never exhibit behaviors associated with inexperienced, immature and weak people. Here are the things that mature Zambian men don’t do.
- They don’t let fear keep them from achieving happiness and success.
- They don’t go do things just to please others.
- They don’t create an idealized image of a woman in their mind.
- They don’t get baffled by a woman’s woods or actions.
- They don’t hold grudges.
- They don’t feel insecure about their appearance and style.
- They don’t distance themselves from their family.
- They don’t allow people to bully them.
- They don’t moan or despair when faced with challenges.
- They don’t see their job as something boring that they have to put up with.
- They aren’t afraid to take actions and make difficult decisions.
- They don’t set unrealistic goals.
- They don’t let their ego get the best of them or act on impulse.